Where is the spark

Ever a friend of mine told me that the most beautiful part of love is when it starts to spark. Everybody is desperate for this moment. Who should make the first move? Does he/she like me? What if he/she does not like me and I have already confessed? It may cause embarrassment then. How to continually be friend?

Maintenance is needed after the spark. Most of the couple will firstly cover themselves, if they weren't friend at the beginning. After sometime, we will have our 'real me' to leak out, either consciously or unconsciously. Later, when they are close to each other, then there start complains. This is when 爱情 turn into 感情.

There will always be room of imagination if both of them did not start their relationship. This is because they have not seen the 'real me' and do not face the reality of life together. Disagreement always lead to argument when couple face reality of life together. Who should listen to who? First, second or third time maybe the man will listen to the lady. But will this stay forever? This is when both party change their focus from their naive love to their family. Or, this is when both party is so weak to fall to another relationship, to betray their love one. Because the sweetest part of love is when it beginning to spark. When the sparking ends, then the feeling has gone and some bitter one might interfere. If one continue the affair and break up with their partner, he/she might need to go through the process again, and again. Unless, they really can get a partner that is a 'yes' man/lady, that do not have any personal thoughts, just like a robot to be control by people.

Respect, the most important key in one relationship. The key of respect will solve the problem of eager, anger, jealousy, hatred, egoism and etc etc... How to get the key?

I miss the spark so much!